Hey there everyone! Happy National Coming Out Day!
I think something important to remember when this day rolls around is that it’s about more than coming out for yourself; it’s about coming out for others too. And that doesn’t mean to literally come out for them. You should never out someone else, especially someone who isn’t ready. But if you make it known that you’re a safe person for someone who is afraid or feels like they can’t come out, you’ve helped. You’ve done something great. There are people, possibly some of you, who are going to say “coming out as an ally isn’t okay,” and while I understand where that’s coming from, I disagree. I get that there are people who are going to come out as allies and say they are a part of the community, and that’s a topic for another time. But I can’t bring myself to hold the opinion that coming out as an ally is entirely a bad thing because when you’re in that position, when you’re scared of coming out and feel like it’s going to lead to problems, pain, rejection, or worse, having a friend, a teacher, or anyone else who you know is an ally, who you know won’t judge you for being who you are, is important. Late last year was the first time I told anyone about my gender identity. Granted, it was around the same time I found out male and female weren’t the only gender identities in the world, but nevertheless it was around that time when I first told anyone. There was one person who was one of the first people I told because I knew I’d be safe and I wouldn’t be judged. And when I told this person I came out to my parents, the instant response I received was, “I am proud of the person you are. Always.” If I could articulate how much that meant to me, I would have a long time ago (and if you’re the person I’m referring to, thank you again). Having someone on your side, someone who can do that for you, makes a world of difference. And if you disagree, please talk to me because I want to understand why and I can’t if we never discuss it.
Stay safe. Stay comfortable. Stay you.
Happy National Coming Out Day guys.